One with a dog, one to adopt and one to have a family of his own. This is the discussion I had yesterday with my son, Jason.
Actually these are my children's plans for their future:
Joey says, "No way!! I ain't having no kids, I'm gonnna have a dog."
Rona say, "There is no way I am going to give birth, I'm adopting my kids. Mom, you'll love them the same won't you?"
Jason is the only one of my children that plans to actually get married and have his own children.
So I have three different children, and three different plans. I'm curious to see how it all plays out for them, of course not that curious that I can't wait another ten or so years.
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Can you remember how you felt at that age about having children? I do, and I couldn't imagine being a parent until I was well into my twenties. So I had dogs until then and still do. I'd also love to adopt.
My sister tells me that I planned on adopting also, that I wasn't having any children. I think I could imagine having children and expected that, but giving birth is a whole different story. I remember one of my fears from when I was young was driving. I never thought that I would be able to stay between the lines. It is much easier than you expect it to be. My daughter has the same fears.
As a matter of fact when I was a teenager my sister gave birth to one of my nephews, well actually both before I graduated high school. She is 18 months older than myself. She was not even close to being ready to raise a child at that time, and I said that if she did want to raise him than I would. I was willing to take on her responsibility. Of course I didn't have to, I left for the military and my parents raised her two oldest boys. I am very thankful that I didn't have to raise a baby at that age, but I would have.
I know it took me a long time before I was ready to be a parent. Very long in fact. There have been both positives and negatives about waiting so long, but it worked out for the best.
I was 23 & 26 when I had my children. Still kind of early if you ask me, but since I have been raising them alone for the past 8 or 9 years it might be good that I will still be fairly young when they leave the nest and I can take time out for myself, be a bit greedy. Although I also feel that having children so young can be a great disadvantage. I know that I probably should have waited. In my case, with my marriage failing, I really stuggled in the beginning with raising them. I felt pretty overwhelmed I guess I could say. To be honest when I think of getting into a relationship now, I think of how comfortable I have become with it being just me & the kids, how will things be with an outsider? I know my nephew lives with me, but he has on and off throughout his life, so he is pretty much like another sibling to my children.
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