The other day I went to a parenting class offered by my kids' school. They invited a parenting expert to talk to us. She was pretty interesting and made the evening fun.
Before leaving for the class one of my sons came up to me and told me that I was a great parent and that I didn't need to go. How sweet of him, but I think that any parent that thinks they are perfect needs to think again. I believe that there can always be room for improvement especially as your child enters new age groups and new issues arise. There may even be some things that you already know, but you just need to be refreshed and motivated. Then again maybe you are perfect, and if that is the case I am sure that you may have something valuable that you can share with the group.
Part of the problem with today's children, not enough parents want to step up and take their parental roles seriously.
LET'S GET SERIOUS!!
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Thanks Ian, glad to see you are still around. I haven't been around much lately. Although rumor has it I might have plenty of spare time soon (like about 3 months off work).
As far as parenting goes you are a "superdad" I have seen you in action also. I have not seen many men give their children the attention that you give yours. I am sure they are out there, but harder to find. The older my kids get the more they dislike their father. The bad thing is that the older they get the harder he tries. We have different parenting views and he will not take any advice from me. I find it frustrating because I truly want them to have a loving relationship.
We just have to realize that we cannot change the other parents, they are set in their ways just as we are. I try to reassure my children when they think that their father doesn't love them. I tell them that he really does love them very much, but that he just expresses it differently than I do.
Honestly, There is no dislike a child has for either one of their parents. It is what the parents do to each other that brings on the dislike a child would have in a given situation. Or don't buy them what they want. That works too.
But, both a mother and a father is really necessary to make a child complete.
Ian, you will never replace their mom. And Marie, you will never replace their dad. And you can't be both a mom and a dad either.
Every single parent in the world gives their child something nobody else can. Even if you don't think it yourself. Even the worst of them.
Fred
Fred...there is not need to convince me about a child's need for both parents. I already know this. We disagree on a lot of things, but I still do whatever I can to help him have the relationship with them. Usually every year I give up any holiday with my children so that he can spend the time with them. This year he said that I can have them. Which is good because I am taking them to Florida to see my 85 year old grandmother, my parents and one of my nephews. It will be a nice Christmas.
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